All posts filed under: Excutive Women

How mature is your leadership?

“I want more responsibilities.” How many employees come to you with that request? Sometimes they are your high performers, other times your highly ambitious or well-intentioned managers. You also are someone simmering with that desire if you are looking to grow… Opening a new location, joining a philanthropic board of directors, buying a 2nd or 3rd property, signing up for a mind fitness program (aka hiring a coach), having another kid, etc. Saying and voicing out loud we want more responsibilities is great, but do we really know what we are actually asking for? Here is a funny story: Just this week, my step young adult/kid asked to get more responsibilities (YAY!). Feeding the cats in the morning was the specific request. “Absolutely!” was my answer. To add context, I feed the cats in the morning as soon as I get up. I also have to monitor them eating because they will sneak up on each other’s bowl. One has to eat prescription wet food and the other is allergic to it. AND, every cat owner knows …

Leap with grace – The courage to be unpopular

Leading is not easy. I was giving a workshop on managerial courage last week, and courage lives in everyone. All you need to do is get the tools to tap into it when feeling frozen, defeated, overwhelmed, overworked or better yet, develop greater self-awareness to know how to get over yourself and be able act long before feeling that way. As the character Benjamin in “We bought a zoo” said: “Sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage, just literally, 20 seconds of just embarrassing bravery”. Leap. “Just like that.” If you keep doing different versions of the same thing and are waiting for things to change, they won’t unless you leap. Leaping further into your leadership means that making unpopular decisions with grace is part of your daily routine. It also means you will be wrong many times and judged based on the biases your team and colleagues around you have. I was having dinner with a dear friend last night and we were having a great conversation about women and different ways to …

Ditch you suit – Wear confidence

“Do not judge a book by its cover”, we all are familiar with that saying. Even though it is perceived as a very noble way of being, we judge all the time whether it is positively or negatively. It is a normal human behavior, and part of it stems from our cognitive biases. During a conference I did for my community in Hoboken, I talked about the importance of a first impression. According to a NYU research conducted by Dr. Michael Solomon, we make 11 critical decisions in the first 7 seconds of meeting someone new. 1. Education Level 2. Economic Level 3. Perceived Credibility, Believably, Competence and Honesty 4. Trustworthiness 5. Level of Sophistication 6. Sex Role Identification 7. Level of Success 8. Political Background 9. Religious Background 10. Ethnic Background 11. Social/ Professional / Sexual Desirability Whoever decided that wearing a suit meant looking professional had a good idea, but they completely left out the importance of style, fit, culture, body type, silhouette, comfort, personality and what one projects. And, the only reasons why jeans …