All posts tagged: Leadership

Showing up is an inside job bigger than you

January 10th 2019 marked the first concrete milestone for the “Women in leadership who dare to play in the boys club initiative”. Everyone who showed up on that day is a leader. They all were in communication, I knew exactly who was going to show up and when, and I did not have to worry about anyone not having their things together. …As a matter of fact, they came over-prepared and with the most beautiful enthusiasm and smile, especially after clearing out the energies from the commute to Brooklyn snafus. All experts in their respective fields, my promise was to give them the opportunity to experience what it feels like when you go on a TV set. Let’s face it, even though I have been mostly writing lately, video is where it’s at in terms of positioning yourself, gaining greater credibility, get your audience to know you, getting business opportunities, and amplifying your message. As part of a women’s history month series, I actually am part of a panel on that very topic on March …

How mature is your leadership?

“I want more responsibilities.” How many employees come to you with that request? Sometimes they are your high performers, other times your highly ambitious or well-intentioned managers. You also are someone simmering with that desire if you are looking to grow… Opening a new location, joining a philanthropic board of directors, buying a 2nd or 3rd property, signing up for a mind fitness program (aka hiring a coach), having another kid, etc. Saying and voicing out loud we want more responsibilities is great, but do we really know what we are actually asking for? Here is a funny story: Just this week, my step young adult/kid asked to get more responsibilities (YAY!). Feeding the cats in the morning was the specific request. “Absolutely!” was my answer. To add context, I feed the cats in the morning as soon as I get up. I also have to monitor them eating because they will sneak up on each other’s bowl. One has to eat prescription wet food and the other is allergic to it. AND, every cat owner knows …

Why Self-Awareness is a leader’s greatest asset

In a recent HBR article “Self-Awareness Can Help Leaders More Than an MBA Can” the co-authors wrote, “if the linear MBA-trained logic becomes the sole focus — at the cost of other skills, like self-awareness and understanding others and the culture — the leadership approach is out of balance.” Balance is a choice. You can only deeply understand this concept that “balance is a choice”, when you are self-aware. The ability to look at yourself in the mirror like who you really are from day to day requires courage, humility, practice, self-compassion, maturity and commitment; and the rewards are huge. Why? Competing priorities is an age-old universal challenge and at the end of the day, we are the ones who take (or not) the actions. When we are not aware of what our thoughts, words and actions are saying as a whole and/or the level of impact they have every day, how can we expect to gain the power over consciously choosing that balance? As we know, our actions speak loudly to our core priorities more than …

How wide is your capacity to be with others?

You are a high performer, a director, a manager, an executive or entrepreneur. You give your all, work hard and deal with people all day, everyday. They all want your guidance, your attention and a piece of you. They all come from different backgrounds with a variety of skills and personalities. You either love them all too much and spread yourself thin or are on the verge of losing it, getting pulled in multiple directions. You even wake up some days wondering how you will deal with all of them again. You want a break and recognition. If only you had it your way, everything would be so much better. Perhaps. Unless you are into dictatorship, having it your way all the time is not a sustainable path to getting ahead in your career. By ruling out people who do not think like you or blaming your performance or results on others, you will find your effectiveness in leadership suffering. One thing I notice all of the greatest leaders we love have in common, is …