Author: Jennifer

Showing up is an inside job bigger than you

January 10th 2019 marked the first concrete milestone for the “Women in leadership who dare to play in the boys club initiative”. Everyone who showed up on that day is a leader. They all were in communication, I knew exactly who was going to show up and when, and I did not have to worry about anyone not having their things together. …As a matter of fact, they came over-prepared and with the most beautiful enthusiasm and smile, especially after clearing out the energies from the commute to Brooklyn snafus. All experts in their respective fields, my promise was to give them the opportunity to experience what it feels like when you go on a TV set. Let’s face it, even though I have been mostly writing lately, video is where it’s at in terms of positioning yourself, gaining greater credibility, get your audience to know you, getting business opportunities, and amplifying your message. As part of a women’s history month series, I actually am part of a panel on that very topic on March …

How mature is your leadership?

“I want more responsibilities.” How many employees come to you with that request? Sometimes they are your high performers, other times your highly ambitious or well-intentioned managers. You also are someone simmering with that desire if you are looking to grow… Opening a new location, joining a philanthropic board of directors, buying a 2nd or 3rd property, signing up for a mind fitness program (aka hiring a coach), having another kid, etc. Saying and voicing out loud we want more responsibilities is great, but do we really know what we are actually asking for? Here is a funny story: Just this week, my step young adult/kid asked to get more responsibilities (YAY!). Feeding the cats in the morning was the specific request. “Absolutely!” was my answer. To add context, I feed the cats in the morning as soon as I get up. I also have to monitor them eating because they will sneak up on each other’s bowl. One has to eat prescription wet food and the other is allergic to it. AND, every cat owner knows …

How will you balance yourself in 2019?

How do you know when “good” mindsets you have, go too far? We all know that any good thing that is overused brings its load of weaknesses with it. Knowledge is only 50% of the ingredients when it comes to the recipe of restoring balance or instilling change. Weather you are on the side that resolutions are underrated or the one that deems them overrated, balance is an intention we hear loud and clear across platforms for 2019.   …and that has been the case for decades…   The difference today is that technology gives us the opportunity to produce more, in a 24 hours cycle. How cool is that?! I surely am not asking you anything you didn’t already asked yourself, but is “producing more”, the goal? Maybe… And if so, why?   In the 10 years I worked in the fashion industry, the goal was always to make a higher profit margin from one year to the other.  It was a “do more and better, with less and less budget, year after year and …

Are you answering your calls or stuck test calling?

“Can I have a minute?” Asks the third person that popped their head in your office in the past hour since you sat down to finally“do some work”. Now, however you handle those situations or the reason why this is happening varies. The most common things I hear from clients are: We have an open-door policy There is not enough time to do everything They need me If I don’t help them, things will fall apart Nobody is doing what they are supposed to do I have to be everywhere, so they all coming to me now But Jen, there is nothing I can do about this! (that’s my favorite 😉 ) People working with me quickly realize they are responsible for their own fate.  And even those who already knew this, realize how much they were underutilizing that awareness. One behavior that seems small and harmless, like allowing people to pop in the office, reveals very deep-rooted beliefs setting us up daily to keep things running the same. And, your brain is excellent at making sure you do …

Leap with grace – The courage to be unpopular

Leading is not easy. I was giving a workshop on managerial courage last week, and courage lives in everyone. All you need to do is get the tools to tap into it when feeling frozen, defeated, overwhelmed, overworked or better yet, develop greater self-awareness to know how to get over yourself and be able act long before feeling that way. As the character Benjamin in “We bought a zoo” said: “Sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage, just literally, 20 seconds of just embarrassing bravery”. Leap. “Just like that.” If you keep doing different versions of the same thing and are waiting for things to change, they won’t unless you leap. Leaping further into your leadership means that making unpopular decisions with grace is part of your daily routine. It also means you will be wrong many times and judged based on the biases your team and colleagues around you have. I was having dinner with a dear friend last night and we were having a great conversation about women and different ways to …

Ditch you suit – Wear confidence

“Do not judge a book by its cover”, we all are familiar with that saying. Even though it is perceived as a very noble way of being, we judge all the time whether it is positively or negatively. It is a normal human behavior, and part of it stems from our cognitive biases. During a conference I did for my community in Hoboken, I talked about the importance of a first impression. According to a NYU research conducted by Dr. Michael Solomon, we make 11 critical decisions in the first 7 seconds of meeting someone new. 1. Education Level 2. Economic Level 3. Perceived Credibility, Believably, Competence and Honesty 4. Trustworthiness 5. Level of Sophistication 6. Sex Role Identification 7. Level of Success 8. Political Background 9. Religious Background 10. Ethnic Background 11. Social/ Professional / Sexual Desirability Whoever decided that wearing a suit meant looking professional had a good idea, but they completely left out the importance of style, fit, culture, body type, silhouette, comfort, personality and what one projects. And, the only reasons why jeans …