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Self-Expression Wednesday

Conditions being our internal and external environment.

Ex:
– I don’t feel good today. (Go anyway!)

– “They” won’t let me. (So What? Allow yourself to believe in you. You don’t need “them”)

– It “shouldn’t” be that way. (Maybe, but it is that way. Find another way. You are creative and smart.)

– It’s impossible. (Is it really? Prove it to me.)

Happy #MakeItHappenWednesday
With tough love,
Jen

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There is no “one fits all”.
Listen to your own rhythm, seek guidance.


 

Be mindful of where you are staring from.
There are no short cuts, only fast tracks.

Often times we rely on “how to” to find solutions or answers, when all we need to do is look within first.

No one has lived our life exactly the way we have lived it.

 

Self-Expression Wednesday

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Say out loud: “I am ______ [insert your name].”
That’s all of who you need to be.


We grow up wondering about and crafting what category we fit into.

We are thought we have to, or else! …

Or else what?

 

Do we really have to?

Does it really matter?

And if it does… for whom does it matter?

Mother or Father?

Society?

Our boss?

Our promotions?

Our ego?

 

What if we had it all backwards?

What IF… fitting our life and our being in ONE sentence was the biggest waste of our time and that to be free, it was the exact opposite we needed to pay attention to.

As a matter of fact it is!

We miss out on so much life experiences and present moments by worrying about where and how to fit in.

I’ve done it and personally, I am done with it.

I fit nowhere and everywhere at the same time.

We are all diamonds in the rough. None of us are the same and everyone is the same simultaneously.

Life is a paradox.

All of us are worthy of a book taking a lifetime to write up.

Be you. That is all you need to be.

Your diversity is your strength

When you spend a lot of time with me, you know I am all about equality. And even though the majority of my work revolves around women more specifically, I “secretly” am working on bringing both men and women of all colors, sexual orientations, life styles and cultures together. My “life goggles” see everyone and everything connected. No wonder I LOVE traveling so much!

By focusing on bringing one group at the time up to their fullest potential, it naturally narrows down the barriers and discrepancies between diversities. However, the master key to it all is inclusion.

In my blog post “How wide is your capacity to be with others”, I wrote, “I have never seen anyone I have worked with that was deprived from strengths or qualities”. The challenge is that a lot of people do not even know what their strengths and qualities are or sadly, they BELIEVE they do not have any that are valuable.

Trust me, I have been there. I used to think that all my singing and on stage performance experience was completely useless and could not see the extreme value of it. Without having stage experience, I would not be so comfortable expressing myself on camera nor be confident speaking authentically in front of groups of any size. I can work a room like no one else and facilitate productive interaction between people on various topics by simply and powerfully be myself.

As leaders, it is our job to identify strengths and qualities of those surrounding us, be it our teams, colleagues, employees, tribes and even family members, regardless of their background. Our “strenghtsdar” never shuts off and is a huge gift when it comes to contribute at developing someone’s talent or even empower those near and dear to us.

Embrace diversity. Embrace YOUR diversity. All you need to be is yourself to thrive and hone the skills you already have.

In my chapter of Elizabeth Barry’s book “Own your vulnerability – Become a self-loving powerful woman”, I wrote something very important on the career topic: “My late father in law once said: “No one looks back at their life wishing they had worked more”. When it comes to work life balance, it is important to understand that the choices we make are directly connected to the outcome we are most attached to. It could be financial freedom, success, family support, recognition, fulfillment, status etc. What’s essential is to recognize why we do what we do and see if it is in alignment with our core values. Then and only then, work and life balance won’t seem mutually exclusive anymore.”

In other words, what outcome do you really want out of your career and how does it translate rightnow in your day-to-day life? Are you chasing the “shoulds” or are you embracing your strengths that are naturally in line with your core values?

As I always say, life is too short to spend time being someone we are not so start by acknowledging why you do what you do and confidently include and express the pure talent already residing inside you. I promise that by doing that, everything you want will be at arm’s length.

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Self-Expression Manifesto of the weekEmbrace diversity. Embrace YOUR diversity. All you need to be is yourself to thrive and hone the skills you already have.

Join the conversation: What are your biggest strengths and how do you use them in your career?

The power of daily choices

In my post “How much do your choices dictate your results?”, I state “choice beats disciple and turns willingness into action”.

I also talk about the positive impact of being consistent with our choices.

The clients I attract are successful leaders who are eager to learn and achieve more. They understand that self-work is a lifetime journey and that navigating alone is no longer an option to be able to take strides. They also know that the more you rise to the “top” the less it becomes about them and all about the people and the mission they serve. They choose to do the work and even though it is not always easy, they always find a way to have fun with it and learn. Humor and lessons are key when we enter the “out of comfort” zone. And then comes the celebration when the light bulb goes on a blind spot and the results show up shortly after.

They inspire me.

Mainly, these leaders chose to do the work consistently. Both themselves and the world around them benefit from it like a ripple effect, and that’s how winning really looks like.

To choose or not to choose our goals, mission, career, etc. is a daily practice.

We can choose to:

1- make magic with them

2- change our mind

3- redirect them

4- turn them around

5- make them bigger/smaller

6- stick with them

7- ignore them

8- whine about them

9- Let them go

And so on.

Whatever we choose when we get up every morning is OK, as long as we are empowered by it. We are human, so sometimes whining will be freeing! If we are not empowered however, it is a sign that we are either living for someone else’s dreams, hopes or expectations or do not feel worthy enough.

One of the CEO I interviewed said it brilliantly when she shared that having goals for her company (and herself too), is very important. She added that it was AS important if not more, to know when to let them go or readjust them. I say it is exactly the same thing with anything we choose to do.

Things around us evolve when we are committed to make a difference and nothing ever stays static in time.

So if choice beats disciple and turns willingness into action; action is what changes the world. And you too can make that your daily choice!

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Self-Expression Manifesto: The actions that changes the world stems from our empowered choices.

Join the conversation: What choices are your committed to make daily and what empowers you about them?