All posts filed under: Self-Awareness

Showing up is an inside job bigger than you

January 10th 2019 marked the first concrete milestone for the “Women in leadership who dare to play in the boys club initiative”. Everyone who showed up on that day is a leader. They all were in communication, I knew exactly who was going to show up and when, and I did not have to worry about anyone not having their things together. …As a matter of fact, they came over-prepared and with the most beautiful enthusiasm and smile, especially after clearing out the energies from the commute to Brooklyn snafus. All experts in their respective fields, my promise was to give them the opportunity to experience what it feels like when you go on a TV set. Let’s face it, even though I have been mostly writing lately, video is where it’s at in terms of positioning yourself, gaining greater credibility, get your audience to know you, getting business opportunities, and amplifying your message. As part of a women’s history month series, I actually am part of a panel on that very topic on March …

How will you balance yourself in 2019?

How do you know when “good” mindsets you have, go too far? We all know that any good thing that is overused brings its load of weaknesses with it. Knowledge is only 50% of the ingredients when it comes to the recipe of restoring balance or instilling change. Weather you are on the side that resolutions are underrated or the one that deems them overrated, balance is an intention we hear loud and clear across platforms for 2019.   …and that has been the case for decades…   The difference today is that technology gives us the opportunity to produce more, in a 24 hours cycle. How cool is that?! I surely am not asking you anything you didn’t already asked yourself, but is “producing more”, the goal? Maybe… And if so, why?   In the 10 years I worked in the fashion industry, the goal was always to make a higher profit margin from one year to the other.  It was a “do more and better, with less and less budget, year after year and …

Are you answering your calls or stuck test calling?

“Can I have a minute?” Asks the third person that popped their head in your office in the past hour since you sat down to finally“do some work”. Now, however you handle those situations or the reason why this is happening varies. The most common things I hear from clients are: We have an open-door policy There is not enough time to do everything They need me If I don’t help them, things will fall apart Nobody is doing what they are supposed to do I have to be everywhere, so they all coming to me now But Jen, there is nothing I can do about this! (that’s my favorite 😉 ) People working with me quickly realize they are responsible for their own fate.  And even those who already knew this, realize how much they were underutilizing that awareness. One behavior that seems small and harmless, like allowing people to pop in the office, reveals very deep-rooted beliefs setting us up daily to keep things running the same. And, your brain is excellent at making sure you do …

Leap with grace – The courage to be unpopular

Leading is not easy. I was giving a workshop on managerial courage last week, and courage lives in everyone. All you need to do is get the tools to tap into it when feeling frozen, defeated, overwhelmed, overworked or better yet, develop greater self-awareness to know how to get over yourself and be able act long before feeling that way. As the character Benjamin in “We bought a zoo” said: “Sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage, just literally, 20 seconds of just embarrassing bravery”. Leap. “Just like that.” If you keep doing different versions of the same thing and are waiting for things to change, they won’t unless you leap. Leaping further into your leadership means that making unpopular decisions with grace is part of your daily routine. It also means you will be wrong many times and judged based on the biases your team and colleagues around you have. I was having dinner with a dear friend last night and we were having a great conversation about women and different ways to …

The rise of female role models, inspiring the next generations

As much as I love my “celebrity” male role models, I had no idea how it felt to actually be really excited about discovering a strong career woman character who can navigate the “boys club” like no other… until I “met” Wendy Rhodes. The media are bringing forth more and more of them and that is extremely refreshing to be able to relate.   And when 5 completely different people tell you, you should watch the series “Billions”, you do. Women are strong, capable, beautiful, brilliant and influential.  They should not be shy to shine and stand tall amongst all. Men are not scary. Women are not catty. When you look at someone in the eyes, you see no more genders, only the depth of someone’s mind and what it mirrors back to us. Our mind (men, women and every gender in between) is the MOST powerful tool we have.   It knows no inequality when we dare to let it wonder to what could be. And it gets sharper and wiser the more we become self-aware of ourselves and how …

Leadership Minute Monday – Handing off the pizza cutter

Delegation is a conversation that happens at all level of leadership and you do not need me to tell you when, what and to whom. . No matter how seasoned  you are, delegating is not as easy as it seams.  It takes a lot of patience, trust, coach-like attitude and letting go. . In this two minutes segment, I share a pizza story that happened with my husband Todd, and he approves of the version… we’ve both been laughing quite a bit using it as an analogy since then and I could not fit it in only one minute!